Keisha BlairHolistic Wealth Podcast with Keisha Blair: How To Handle The Naysayers in Your Life
On the Holistic Wealth podcast, I had the opportunity to sit down with Loren Ridinger, Co-Founder of Shop.com and MarketAmerica and Founder of Motives Cosmetics. I’ve known Loren for years (she’s also featured in my book Holistic Wealth), and she’s one of the kindest, most inspiring women I know. One of the topics dearest to her is the impact that naysayers have on women, causing self-doubt, fear and outright paralysis. With COVID-19, and the impacts on gender pay equality and women in the workforce, especially working mothers, and female entrepreneurs – this topic is now particularly timely from the perspective of female economic empowerment. In my book Holistic Wealth, I have an entire Chapter on the Naysayers (Chapter 2) entitled “Life on Your Terms”, because its such an important topic for everyone – especially for those who struggle with imposter syndrome, negative self-talk and anxiety. Its impossible to live a life on your terms if you listen to the naysayers. As I stated in my book Holistic Wealth: “The term naysayers is how I refer to people and social forces that tap into negative thinking and undermine your belief in your own ability to create holistic wealth. Toxic naysayers are destructive to holistic wealth; they try to trap women into a narrative where they are afraid of their own goals; and afraid of not being enough“. –Holistic Wealth by Keisha Blair As Loren mentioned on the Holistic Wealth podcast: “Your mind is the most important asset you have – guard it”. Loren has shared openly the struggles of starting her business 29 years ago without much money. At the time of starting her company – it was bringing in just $1,00 per month. Everyone told her she was crazy and upon hearing that she decided to shut out the negative talk and the naysayers and keep believing in her dream. Almost a billion dollars in sales this year and last year, and with over 6 million customers globally – it’s a good thing that she decided to tune out the naysayers. According to her: “You have to learn to get past those people who will bring you down on your journey”.As Loren states, naysayers can also be some of the closest people to you. “My dad used to say you’re never going to make it Loren – you should just go on to becoming a flight attendant with eastern airlines”. Loren decided to block out those messages – and continued to focus on her own dreams. “Self-doubt can be a killer – and most people can’t overcome self-doubt, so it’s very important to guard your mind”. As Loren stated on the podcast: “If I cut you out of my life – its because you gave me the scissors”. Learning to say no is also crucial to success. This includes saying no to the naysayers and those who undermine you and try to talk you out of your dreams. Surround yourself with the right people – people who are positive and will support your dreams. As Loren stated: “When you have the right people around you – you can conquer the world”. Check out my coaching program also offered on a one on one basis and I can help you to develop your own customized Holistic Wealth Blueprint. Listen to full episode of the Holistic Wealth podcast with Keisha Blair, with our special guest Loren Ridinger. Holistic Wealth Podcast with Keisha Blair: How To Handle The Naysayers in Your Life